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Tune Up!

• Every now and then, an instrument needs to be tuned.
• Our body is an instrument.

Pianists know that the day will come when their instrument will need to be tuned. The strings of a piano are subject to the assaults of time, gravity and climate and end up sounding, well… “out of tune”!

You may have noticed, but there is hardly any pianist who knows how to tune a piano. They all call on a professional. When the time has come, a phone call and this individual, his key and his ear, shows up. He is the only one capable of performing such a complex operation.

Because a piano is a complex machine, you need a specialist.

You are a complex machine.

Who takes care of tuning you up? Who makes sure that you are not, well… “out of tune”? If no one has come to take a look “under your hood”, it is likely that time, stress, pressure, climate (!) will have had their effect on your mind, your intelligence, your ability to make the right decisions. And what have you done to minimize the effects of such a decay?

You need training, you need coaching. It’s as simple as that. You need, as we all do, a specialist who will bring alignment back where chaos is trying to take hold!

Why not call us?

What else?

Three skills that are difficult to acquire, but that will be useful for your entire life!

• Our contributions and successes are directly linked to our skills.
• The top-ranking skills are directly linked to communication.

Not so long ago, on Earth, not knowing how to do anything, or very little, was enough. Knowing how to hunt, how to gather the right berries, how to defend oneself… The human being is not a being of knowledge. Not at its core.

Things have changed. We have become a storytelling species. We need meanings, beginnings, middles and ends. We have a representation of the world made of heroes and accomplishments, liberated princesses and successes. We have money that measures achievement or happiness! Because of this, we now live in a world of know-how. We define ourselves by our contribution to the great History of the World. To change the World, willing to change it, is willing to alter its History, is willing to be part of the great common narrative. To be remembered.

Know-how… For us, there are three skills that result from this introduction and that you should learn as soon as possible. None of the three is easy to acquire, but all three are essential.

The first is rooted in this new narrative quality we have as humans and is the skill of writing. Your thoughts will never be better understood nor conveyed better than when you write them down. Whether in a book or a blog or even your personal diary pages, writing is the most humanly-defining skill of our time. Knowing how to write puts you, from the start, in the category of those who have an opinion and express it.

The second one is the skill of speaking! Speak with skill and you are connected, interactive, close to others and to their resources and insights. The wise man says so when he says: “the healing comes from others”. We are not much when we stay on our own, and not being alone means we all need to improve our power of speech, our ability to communicate properly.

Finally, the third skill is that of change, or knowing how to change. This is the essential skill for progress, for advancement. Without this ability, there is only immobility and nothingness. This skill presupposes an understanding of the present situation, of the desired situation and of what needs to be put into action; including what will be necessary to give up.

At Najberg Milne, we aim to help and accompany you in the acquisition of these skills. We won’t go all the way with you, but you can count on us to get you started!

What’s in it for you?

Shall we talk about self-confidence and public-speaking?

• Lack of confidence is a trauma that you can’t heal with the mind.
• The way out is practical.

Our lack of confidence – or in other words “our fear of doing certain things” – is above all a very negative belief that we hold about ourselves. It therefore triggers unwanted emotions that have very concrete physical effects. If we often forget the origin of this debilitating soliloquy, we do identify the precise circumstances that favour it. For example: public speaking. Together with other symptoms, it is the kind of crack that tends to weaken our being in all aspects of our life, even if its effects – in kind and in quantity – seem vague to us.

But it is impossible for us to put an end to our lack of confidence by fiat, simply by the force of our will. Because it is already anchored in the memory of our emotions and our body.

We must take the opposite path: create a new physical and emotional memory, positive this time, which will signal to the mind the need to modify its discourse. In other words: practicing speaking in public. That is to say finding the courage to experience something that we dread (a small step, a modest action, you won’t ask for more to begin with) and see that it is going well. And then, doing it again.

Every day we will expand the scope and area of this practice, ensuring that it is done with the right techniques and in the right conditions. And with each passing day, a new memory will get created, gradually imposing the certainty that not only are we capable of it, but that it has become our “new normal”. The name of this? Self-confidence.